Eat. Sleep. Poop. Play.
These are the essential things to know about kids. Well, my kids, at least. Yet parents, especially moms for some reason, can be shamed for literally any choice they make.
Store bought baby foods (making your own is so much better!). Making your own (too time consuming! Play with your baby instead!). Breastfeed (I hope you plan on doing it for a year, and I don’t want to be seeing that boob!). Formula (breast milk is best, you know. You just need to keep trying). Pumping (it’s easier to just put the baby on your breast!). No pumping (you should pump, give someone else a chance to feed the baby). Co-sleeping (you could crush the baby!). Sleep training (you do want the baby to sleep, don’t you?!). Rocking (careful, the baby is going to have to be rocked forever now!). Toys (I hope they’re appropriate for his/her age!). Too many toys (you’re spoiling the child!). Too few toys (kids need toys!). Potty training too early (it’s never going to work, you know). Potty training too late (why did you wait so long?!). Pull ups (may as well keep them in diapers!).
That’s not even a full list! Anyone else breathless after that?
Well, I don’t tolerate shaming. I will raise my children how I want and I guarantee you they will be happy.
I’m a practical mom. I meet their needs, I work with who they are as individuals. It might not make sense to an outsider, but it does to my family. So don’t go around shaming.
I breastfeed because I can. I offer baby foods and table foods to my infant, even when she had no teeth (she has 1 now). I feed yogurt and Mac and Cheese to my toddler everyday because he won’t eat anything else.
I could go on, but my point is that I feed my kids. Maybe it’s not always the best way or the best foods, but I get what I can into my stubborn little babies.
After all, shouldn’t kids just be fed? In a world where kids still starve everyday, I consider myself lucky to be able to feed my kids.
You know what baffles me? All the “rules” about getting a child to sleep. Don’t rock the baby, don’t co-sleep, don’t nurse baby to sleep. Do sleep train, do put baby down awake, do have a separate bed. I’m sure there’s more.
My point is that a sleeping child should be a blessing, no matter how he or she gets to sleep. Besides, that baby is going to be 13 one day and will probably want their own bed and to be left alone by mom and dad!
I just get my kids to sleep any way I can. It won’t last forever. And, at the end of the night, all that matters is that they sleep!
Oh, potty training, how I hate you. You told me to try at age 2. He screamed and cried and thought I was punishing him. It did not go well. Why? He wasn’t ready!
He should be potty trained by 3 so he can go to preschool. Nope. He was almost 3.5 before I started. Took a week. He still prefers diapers, but at least he uses the potty consistently and has never had an accident!
All I really want is for my kids to use the potty. It’ll happen when they are ready. Again, they probably won’t want me changing their diaper when they 13!
Kids just want to play and explore. As long as it’s safe, who cares if it’s a toy or a box or a piece of lint? They’re playing and exploring. And, if you’re lucky, they’re not complaining.
I just want my kids to play and learn to play together, though it’s fine if they don’t. Play is important since it’s how kids learn about themselves and the world. I’m not going to direct them.
So there you go. I just want my kids to eat, sleep, poop, and play. If they can do that, everything’s good.
After all, I’m a practical mom.