My Mom Truths

~ kat

Over the past couple of months, I’ve been thinking about the direction I want my blog to take. I loved doing what I was doing last year, but not when it comes to my motherhood posts. Sometimes I would write a post and then worry so much about it that it would never get posted. I was so afraid of offending, of being accused of mom shaming, of finding no one else quite like me who could relate.

This year, I’ve decided to kiss that fear good-bye. This is my blog. This is my space. I make absolutely zero dollars from anything I do here. All I get is the occasional free book, but that has nothing to do with how I mom. So, I’m going to write whatever the heck I want in whatever way I want. I want to live my life, write my truth, and see if there’s anyone else like me out there.

I’m not going to give advice, provide how-to guides, or otherwise suggest how other parents should do things. I’m going to write about what I do, what works for me, and what I think as a mother. If any of it is construed as shaming or otherwise mean, it isn’t my intention. I simply want to be me and talk about how I mom and not how other moms should do it. I don’t know you or your kids. I can’t tell you what works for you. I only know me and my kids. I’ll tell you what I do.

So, here’s my mom truth: I have a pretty good idea of what I’m doing.

There. I said it. Motherhood isn’t mysterious to me. I don’t long for guides. I don’t read parenting books. I don’t think being a mom is hard. I think life will be hard when I start working full-time, but I don’t think motherhood is hard. As a matter of fact, I have a boatload of fun. It’s exhausting, but I’m not crying into my coffee or wine (I drink neither, anyways).

That’s the direction I’m choosing for this year. I’m going to speak my truth and my mind. If it angers you or you feel shamed, it’s not my intention, but I would like to engage in conversation with you about it. I only know me and the kind of mom my kids need me to be. I can understand other perspectives and methods, but I’ll never fully know where you are coming from, so I’d like to hear from you. Feel free to share with me as I share with you (anyone interested in doing a guest post?).

I hope you’ll continue on this journey with me, but totally understand if you’d rather jump ship. I’m going to be honest this year, but I think my voice will still shine through. I just want to be me.

27 thoughts on “My Mom Truths”

  1. And you have my thumbs up, for this is you and people like to know the way you are. We all agree to disagree and I feel that’s the most logical thing to do gracefully. So keep rendering your thoughts and as for the guest post, I am interested but since I am not a parent yet so you’ll have to give me some other topic.

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    1. Very true, though the parenting world can be very harsh and moms especially are shunned for going a different way. It’s not just kids who can be mean. I would absolutely love to have you as a guest! I’m going with a personal truth and honesty theme, so anything along the lines of what your truth is, whether or not it aligns with anyone else’s, is welcome. There are many ways to live and many ways to do the same thing and I’d very much like to highlight that.

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  3. I relate to this so much! I always want to dive deeper into my parenting side of my blog, but I was hesitant before because I didn’t want to come across a certain way. I love being a mom, and I think it’s the hardest job some days. At the same time, I think it’s the easiest because it comes so natural to me. There are always challenges, but life isn’t a breeze. I know everyone has a different opinion, so I want to voice mine this year. Being a mom is fun, and it’s so awesome to raise kids. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. I do hope you write more about parenting! There are so many ways to do it and so many different experiences that we all should have the chance to just express what it’s like for us without having to worry. If you would ever like to do a guest post, I welcome you with open arms. I hope you’re having a lot of fun with your babies today!

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      1. Thanks so much! I’d love to do that sometime! I’ve never done a guest post, but I’m definitely open to it. The babies and I are having a blast today! It’s a messy but fun and busy day. Hope you’re all well and having a good day!

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      2. Wonderful! I’m going with a personal truths and honesty whether or not anyone else agrees with it theme, but, really, anything is welcome.

        I can totally relate to messy! The amount of chaos and mess two little people can accomplish is staggering. My husband and I joke that kids should be hired to do demolition work. If it weren’t so dangerous.

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  5. THANK YOU! I’ve been wanting to follow a “mom blog” that’s not just guides and how to’s on the “right way” to do things, anyway! I love that you are speaking your mom truths, as a hopeful mother to be that’s the kind of motherhood blog I want to have my attention on! Thank you 🖤

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    1. Wow, thank you so much! I have to admit I was afraid to take this path since moms either do how-to guides or talk about the misery of motherhood. I just want to be honest about how I alone parent and my mind can’t help equating how-to posts to shaming moms for not doing it that way, too. Hopefully, I don’t disappoint, and I sincerely hope you get to add your mom voice one day.

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      1. I truly appreciate it! Even if it’s something other people don’t do identically, I think it’s so important for more moms to share their real selves and experiences. It’s pretty intimidating to consider how much curated perfection I’ll be walking into with sharing aspects of motherhood online, I 100% prefer to follow honest, real moms any day! 😉

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  6. You go girl! I love this because I feel the exact same way sometimes. Sometimes I have this idea of what I want to write in my head but then worry that it is going to be taken the wrong way by people, when in fact this is our safe space and if people don’t like it they can choose not to read. I look forward to hear what you have to say.

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    1. Thank you so much! The sorry and fear are definitely there, but there’s also so much love and support. I hope you’re able to post what you want to and not what seems to be expected. And if you’d ever like to be a guest here, you’re more than welcome.

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  12. Good luck to you on your new journey of freedom in your blog. That’s what I’m trying to do, just let loose and see if I can find someone to relate and maybe help feel their not alone. I think it’s great you think being a mom is not hard, because I think it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. It’s somewhat refreshing to hear, though I am a bit envious as well. #momtruth

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    1. Thank you! It’s so nice finding people who are like you, especially when you feel so different. But there are so many people out there that it’s worth it just for the chance to find one kindred soul. I like to think my background in psychology and child development is invaluable to me as a mom, but, honestly, I think I was just blessed with amazing kids. Best of luck to you!

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