On Tuesdays, I usually share the stories, writing related posts, book reviews, and book releases I’ve come across over the past week. Last week I was fortunate to host an author and his nonfiction book Taking Action for a Better Tomorrow. I had planned on doing another stories, etc. post today, but I must also be a person with a life to live.
I’m a busy wife and mother. Even though I never, ever had any plans of being a stay-at-home mom, it’s where I’ve found myself for nearly three years now. Recently, thanks to a lovely mom sharing another lovely mom’s story, I’ve been trying to take my role to heart, trying to set aside the resentment I sometimes feel about not having my own career. It’s still difficult to swallow, but now I find I’m more interested in putting more of myself into my family.
There have been many times over the past couple of years that I’ve considered giving up blogging. It’s time consuming, as we all know very well, especially for those bloggers seeking to expand and grow. There’s not just writing, editing, and posting, but also maintenance behind the blog that must be done. And then there’s social media and promotion. I too often have found myself sucked into doing things for the sake of this blog, found myself craving more time to work on it, and being bitter when I felt like time was being stolen from me.
There must be a balance between blogging and life. No matter how much I’d sometimes like this blog to turn into something, I’m settling down to the idea of it being little more than a hobby. I have a life that needs to be lived. I have rapidly growing children who will only ever grow up. I have a husband who works long hours and needs the attention and adoration of his wife. Those are the roles that need to move to the forefront of my life.
This past week has been focused on living instead of blogging. I’m behind on replying to comments here and on Instagram. I’m behind on reading posts. I can’t even remember the last time I scrolled through Instagram. The last time I checked Twitter was some time ago when the author of my absolute favorite cozy mystery series, The Coffeehouse Mysteries, contacted me to offer a signed copy of the soon-to-be published 18th book in the series. I’ve felt some guilt about being behind, but my relationships with my husband and children are stronger, and I’ve really enjoyed spending the time I would have spent blogging on them instead. We’re happier, though, for some reason, our 2 year old little girl has been becoming quite the tantrum queen…
Well, all this is just to say there won’t be another Stories and Writing Related Posts I’ve Enjoyed from the Blogging Community post this week. I didn’t have the time. Or, actually, I chose to not put in the time. After all, living must come first. Living a life for the sake of a blog or even simply for a blog or just for a career I don’t actually need and that would only serve my own personal needs isn’t for me.
With the holidays coming up, I have one more full week before I take Thanksgiving week off. Instead of sharing stories, etc., I’ll be sharing some of my favorite bloggers. After my break, I’ll only be posting for 3 weeks before I take 2-3 weeks off for the winter holidays and simply taking a good breather to sort out my mental house.
I love this blog and the community. I’m not going anywhere, and I even have nutty plans of starting a second, much more relaxed book and baking blog. But I do need to spend more time on my family. Even though I feel self-imposed pressure to have my own career just to make my Master’s Degree feel worthwhile, my husband will always see my role as a stay-at-home mom as more important than what he does, and he’s a cancer researcher! It’s time for me to see myself the same way. After all, I do get to use all of my training and education with my kids, and sometimes with him, so it will always be worthwhile. He’s happy as the breadwinner. Besides, one day the kids will both be in school. I’ll eventually have time. But I will no longer sacrifice what time I have for them to blog and do social media. I’m not sure what changes I’ll be making, but I will be making them over the next month or so.
I still want to support writers and authors. I still want to do everything I’m already doing. I’m always baking. I actually have plans to try making my very first apple pie from scratch in just a few hours. I’m afraid I have an addiction to books and can’t stop picking up my Kindle whenever both kids are occupied. There will always be things for me to write and share. But I’ll be putting more effort into living than blogging. I’m balancing myself in the opposite way. Instead of leaning towards blogging with the hope of turning it into something in a few years, I’m leaning towards my family and just waiting to see what the future will bring me. I’ve given up on fighting life and trying to make my goals, dreams, and ideas come to fruition. Something always gets thrown in my path. So I’m letting go. I’m going to put in what I can and no more. As we all know, it’s a balancing act. It’s all about priorities. I’ve decided it’s time for me to re-evaluate mine.
Next week, I’ll be sharing a handful of favorite bloggers. The following week will be a much needed break. Until then!
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