• The Grass is Not Always Greener

    I’m a mom of two, but sometimes I feel like a fraud. Sometimes I fret about how other people see me when I’m out with my kids, and not because of how I parent. But because of how I look, which is absolutely absurd, but, nonetheless, a true experience. I’m one of those ageless Asians. With two Chinese parents, I look like I’m permanently stuck in high school even though I’m 31. It’s easy for people to say how lucky I am and how much they wished they looked like me. Uh, no. Would you want to be mistaken as a high school kid when you’re in a professional environment…

  • My Late Preterm Babies

    November is Prematurity Awareness Month. I debated for a while about whether I should write about my premature babies because, even though they were born early, they are far from the tiny babies born at twenty-something weeks who had to spend weeks to months in the NICU and face a lifetime of health, emotional, and behavioral problems. But if I blog for my children to one day read it and learn a little bit about what they were like as kids, then I want them to know they were born early, but are lucky, and maybe they’ll realize this is why they may have faced challenges at a young age.…

  • An Apology to my Cat

    Dearest Xena, My fluffy baby kitty, I am sorry, but I have introduced chaos into your life. I have given you not one, but two screaming siblings. When you first came home with me, it was just us: you, me, dad, and sister hamster. It was quiet and you got plenty of attention, treats, and petting time. You were our little baby. We didn’t tell you you would be an older sister. We didn’t know we probably should have. You knew before we did that something was happening, but you had no idea what changes would come with it. My beautiful, usually graceful kitty. You patiently went through our move…

  • Sleep Deprived Dreams

    My daughter seems to be teething non-stop these days. While I’m glad she has more than two teeth, it means she sleeps very fitfully. Any noise will wake her. She’ll take an hour to settle down. She’ll just want to be held for an hour. And the teeth come in one…at…a…time. This mommy is tired. For as long as I can remember, I have always had bouts of vivid dreams. Sometimes they only lasted a week. Sometimes they occurred almost every night for a month. I drew inspiration from them, used them as the foundations of my stories. I looked forward to sleep just so I could escape into an…

  • I Have a Boy and a Girl, But That’s Not Why I’m Done

    A lot of people see I have one of each and say something along the lines of, “Oh, you have one of each, so you must be done!” Yes, I have one of each. Yes, I am done. But not because I have one of each. And sometimes I wish I had more confidence and the wherewithal to say so. There are, actually, two reasons why we are not having any more. We just got lucky and had one of each. Actually, my husband is a scientist and followed the scientific approach to having a boy and a girl. Yes, there is a science behind it and, no, I didn’t…

  • Surviving Baby’s First Cold

    Is it normal for a baby getting sick for the first time to act like he or she isn’t sick? Maybe. Maybe not. I don’t know. My son caught his first cold at 8 months, my daughter at 7 months. When my son got sick, he had just learned to crawl. I always thought a sick child needed lots of rest and, indeed, my mom told me he would probably eat and sleep a lot. I remember thinking, “Oh, good, I can sleep, too, because I am also not well.” Ha. Life likes to laugh at me. Not only did my son not eat or sleep more than usual, but…