• Sometimes it's okay to go against what everyone says you should do

    I am Making a Newbie Blogger Mistake, But I Wouldn’t Change Anything

    If you research blogging and how to start a blog, chances are you’ve come across a million and one guides and just as many sites that list any number of mistakes newbie bloggers make. One mistake that consistently ranks number one is not self-hosting. Okay. I get that. Using a free platform like WordPress.com is limiting and the blog doesn’t really belong to you. You are just renting the space (for free). Using a self-hosted site is described as owning your own home and doing whatever it is you want to it. Your chosen blogging platform may close one day, making your beautiful blog go poof as well, so self-hosting…

  • Does Anyone Use the Menu to Navigate Around My Blog?

    I’m curious. If you stop by the blog, do you find what you’re looking for using the menu or do you just scroll through? I know my menu is a bit large. I also know there is almost nothing on some of the pages (there will be one day…). But I also know I haven’t been keeping it updated for at least a week. Oops. Well, life has been busy. My kids have had their ups and downs with naps. At bedtime, my son takes forever to fall asleep and my daughter doesn’t really settle until 11 pm or so, so I take frequent blogging “breaks” during which I’ll forget…

  • I Did What To This Blog?!

    About a month ago, I changed up this blog. New theme, new logo, new menu, new about page. If you’ve wandered by over the past few weeks, you’ve undoubtedly seen it. I was pleased with it. It looked pretty. But… Every time I looked at the home page something bothered me. The post boxes were different sizes! I don’t know about you, but it was driving me nuts. I didn’t like looking at it. It was not pretty. I loved how the logo and header worked together. I loved the way the menu looked. But that home page was just a mess! So now if you stumble by you’ll see…

  • Numbers Are Misleading

    Yesterday WordPress let me know I now have 500 followers. Hooray? Honestly, it’s humbling that so many people are interested in my blog and are following it, but that number is really misleading. 1. The Lily Cafe first ran from 2013-2015 and gained just under 190 followers. Returning 3 years later, that number hasn’t changed. What has changed is the bloggers. The vast majority of them seem to have left the blogging world, or, at least, WordPress. Yet they are still listed as followers. But most of those 190 followers will likely never see one of my posts from this year. Though, if you do read this, I’d love to…

  • Pardon the Dust

    Cough! Cough! Pardon the dust as we get a new menu in place. Well, if you’ve been using the menu, perhaps you’ve noticed it hasn’t been updated in awhile. That’s because it was preparing to be demolished. That’s right, we’re getting a new menu. For the next few days, this new menu will be populated. Right now it’s totally blank. Slowly, that will change. Take a peek if you’re curious. It’ll take a few days before it is complete. As changes continue to happen at The Lily Cafe, I want to thank you for continuing to read and follow. We are excited about the changes and hope you will enjoy…

  • Open During Construction

    First of all, a gigantic thank you to everyone who follows, views, likes, and comments! (Especially the Saturday posts. They really make my husband’s day! So, huge thank you!) I didn’t have any grand plans for The Lily Cafe when I decided to reopen it at the beginning of the year, but, somehow, it’s been growing, almost faster than I can keep up. So, thank you from the bottom of my heart! Secondly, because it’s been going so well, my husband has been somewhat gently pushing me to brand the blog, grow it, and eventually monetize it. How he expects me to do this when sometimes I prefer to just…

  • Not a Mom Blog

    This isn’t a mom blog. But it is. Yet it isn’t. Believe it or not, I really am this indecisive! But let me start by talking about boxes. Not physical boxes. The figurative boxes we put people into. This is really just a mental shortcut, an easy and effortless way to organize the world around us. But it oversimplifies things and misses the details that make all the difference. Growing up, I was always put into boxes, boxes that were far from accurate. But I went along because I was afraid of revealing my true colors. Of letting people get close. Until college. I remember when I was selecting which…

  • Hello?

    Hello? Does anyone still read this? Since it’s been such a long, long, long time, I’ll be surprised if anyone sees this post. But if you do stumble by, hello. It’s been 3 years since I started writing about how motherhood was impacting my writing and almost 3 years since my last post (yikes!). Which means motherhood prevailed. That doesn’t mean I stopped writing, but it has tapered off significantly and I continue to struggle to find time to write. The darling baby who sparked the motherhood posts is now 3. He’s sweet and grouchy in turns, always keeping us on our toes. He is also a proud and loving…