• On Being a Dad: Balance

    What does all this mean to me being a father (and husband)? How have I changed? How have we changed? Let’s discuss Newton’s Third Law of Motion. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. There must be balance. Something cannot come from nothing. I am still the same but slightly worn. Kat is like a fine wine – she always looks great. But I know she’s tired. I am tired. You are all tired. Everyone is tired. I think you are all tired of reading this too! We have reached a new balance which will also be shifting as our kids (and we) grow older. I love…

  • Fatherhood Guest: Yesmoreblogs on Becoming a Father

    The Lily Cafe is thrilled to welcome Yesmoreblogs as a Father Fridays guest. A wonderful blogger who posts some great book reviews that always have me adding more books to my reading list, he is here to talk a little bit about what it was like to become a dad. Do be sure to check out his blog and take a look at his very interesting book reviews (and maybe add a book or two to your list)! Well what can I say 😀 the first words come to mine when I was with my daughter when were alone together (her Mam had gone for a wash) I was sitting…

  • Soul

    We are tired (Kat more so than I) – as I imagine many of you and others are out there in the world. We’ve made a conscious choice to be present. So there are many functions and events that we do not currently attend. Simple outings are challenging. Let’s all commiserate as we discuss “going to the market for groceries.” Is the toddler car seat in? Is the baby seat in? Who will take care of one child to prepare him/her to go outside while other parent does the same for the other child? Going down the stairs is also an adventure in futility as our first born can be…

  • Burkina Boy by Rob Stolzy of Skirmishes With Reality

    The Lily Cafe is thrilled to welcome Rob Stolzy from Skirmishes With Reality, a Father Fridays guest. Do check out his blog and give this wonderful man and father a follow. Please enjoy this lovely guest post. I know it made me quite teary eyed. I know, and can tell you with exactitude, the very instant I became a father… I don’t mean which particular nanosecond a fatefully victorious sperm hero ended his marathon swim from loin to egg wall. Not speaking about biological fatherhood. He’s not my biological child anyway, for I’m an adoptive parent. And also, I don’t mean some sort of bureaucratic milestone moment when it dawned…

  • Commitment

    My first born and I had a good time in gymnastics class. He learned how to do cart wheels, tumbling and bouncing on the trampoline. We got into the car within him strapped to his toddler seat and a request for the “Imperial March” on the radio – which I quickly put on as he had a similar request on the drive to gymnastics. I arrived home seeing Kat hunched over and a tears running down her face. Déja vu! However, this time I was not in the lab. We had company, as my Mother-in-Law was with us at the time. Kat had just returned from the bathroom with some…

  • Time

    I remember when I first met Kat and the laundry list of criteria that I had to meet to be her life-long partner – with a stipulation that she outranks me at home and pretty much everything. But really, everything is equal that is the beauty of it all. On that list we both shared a common interest in being parents – though the number of children was debated for some time but is now firmly at two. We made the decision together to begin a family. This path was challenging: as it began with a miscarriage. So try again we did. Our first was born early. I was in…

  • Father Fridays: Disturbance

    The Lily Cafe is delighted to present The Husband in the first of a 5 part series on fatherhood. Biochemical reactions are constantly occurring inside our bodies. Disturbance in these biochemical processes is an important part of life – as likely without disturbance there would likely be no life as we know it. For example, when looking at things from the cellular perspective, the contact made by proteins on the cell surface of the sperm and egg trigger a violent chemical reaction that prevents all other sperm from entering that egg. Simultaneously, sperm entry into the egg triggers the biochemical reactions that drives cell division – and the beginning of…

  • Father Fridays

    Food will be taking a back seat this month. Here in the States we celebrate Father’s Day on the third Sunday in June. In honor of that, The Lily Cafe will be featuring a series of fatherhood posts written by The Husband, as well as a dad or more. Dads, if you’re interested in being featured, you are more than welcome! Please feel free to leave a comment or contact me through the Contact page. I’d love to feature you and how fatherhood has impacted you.

  • Cartoons Please! Oh, and More Cartoons!

    Cartoons Please! Oh, and More Cartoons! Let me be totally honest. I still watch cartoons. And I love them. In our home, because we have two kids, the t.v. is dominated by: PBS, Disney, Disney Jr. and did I say PBS. Between Dinosaur Train, Odd Squad, Thomas and Friends, Puppy Dog Pals, and pretty much anything Mickey/Disney. I, often in vein, try to watch some of the new. I’m a bit of a news junkie – NYT, LATimes, WSJ, MSNBC, local news, CNN, you name it…can’t get enough. My son loves his cartoons. He is developing his own personal taste and we encourage that. For me, my cartoons consisted of…

  • Children and Attachment To Their Blankets?

    I want to begin by saying that this is a story of compassion by a toddler – my son. Recently, I was experiencing some discomfort. I had been complaining to Kat about this discomfort and my son saw me paying attention to my discomfort. I usually read in the evenings to him and have him learn something new through a video on youtube. As I began to show him a video for something he wanted to learn about, he also said, “Dada, take my blankie.” He then placed it over me and told me. “The blankie will help you to feel much better.” I said, “Thank you.” Then I gave…