Tag: Raising kids

Two Peas in a Pod

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My siblings and I were three peas in a pod, at least until I got older and wanted my own time away from them. That was closer to my pre-teen years. My kids are two peas in a pod. They're a couple of months short of being three years apart, but that doesn't stop them … Continue reading Two Peas in a Pod

The Funny Shorts Story

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My son threw his shorts up onto the hall light. I know he didn't mean to, but it happened, and I couldn't help but laugh. My kids enjoy their baths together. For now, at least. After all, I do have one boy and one girl. But, in California, it's a good way to conserve water, … Continue reading The Funny Shorts Story

Parenting with Psychology: Therapeutic Alliance and Ruptures

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In psychodynamic therapy, the therapeutic alliance is what allows the psychologist and client get the therapeutic work done. What is the therapeutic alliance? Another term for it is working alliance and yet another is rapport. It's the relationship the therapist and client have formed that enables the client to accept what the therapist has to … Continue reading Parenting with Psychology: Therapeutic Alliance and Ruptures

Sometimes I Want to be Mean. On Purpose.

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Living in the city, especially Los Angeles, can be nice. There are a ton of things to do, and I had been wanting to live closer so it would be easier to take the kids to educational and cultural places. The interesting part of LA is that it's a large, sprawling city with an incredible … Continue reading Sometimes I Want to be Mean. On Purpose.

Becoming the Put Together Stay-At-Home Mom

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Stay at home moms get a bad rap. The laundry is never done. We live in leggings. Dinner gets slapped together because the kids won't stop screaming. The house is a war zone. Annoying children's songs invade our sleep for an hour before the baby starts screaming and that's why we look like death warmed … Continue reading Becoming the Put Together Stay-At-Home Mom

Motherhood is Magical: Redefining The Lily Cafe

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Lately, I've been struggling with my motherhood posts. I've gotten caught in wanting to both fit in with other mom bloggers even though motherhood is only one focus of The Lily Cafe and with trying to talk about the kind of mom I am, which sometimes is at odds with what other mom bloggers write … Continue reading Motherhood is Magical: Redefining The Lily Cafe

Parenting with Psychology: Erik Erikson’s Stages of Development

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I spent a lot of time in psychology classes. I guess that's what happens when you decide you want to be a psychology major and then get a higher degree in it. Though my focus was on clinical psychology with the goal of working with people with psychiatric disorders, I was more interested in children … Continue reading Parenting with Psychology: Erik Erikson’s Stages of Development

I Give My Kids Reasons Instead of Saying “Because I Said So”

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"Because I said so" has no place in my home. As soon as my kids were no longer newborns, I started giving them reasons for why they couldn't do something. "No, you can't eat paper because it's not food." "No, you can't have the scissors because they're sharp and you might hurt yourself." "No, you … Continue reading I Give My Kids Reasons Instead of Saying “Because I Said So”

Isolating Myself for the First 3.5 Years of Motherhood Was the Best Thing I Ever Did

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The moment you reveal you're pregnant, you're inundated with people telling you it takes a village, find your tribe, join mom groups, find play groups. Basically, surrounded yourself with moms. I did none of this, and I couldn't have been happier. They say to connect with other moms because only they can understand. Only moms … Continue reading Isolating Myself for the First 3.5 Years of Motherhood Was the Best Thing I Ever Did

My Mom Truths

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Over the past couple of months, I've been thinking about the direction I want my blog to take. I loved doing what I was doing last year, but not when it comes to my motherhood posts. Sometimes I would write a post and then worry so much about it that it would never get posted. … Continue reading My Mom Truths