• Finding contentment by redefining motherhood

    Finding Contentment by Redefining Motherhood

    About two years ago, I brought this blog back to life after a, well, too long unscheduled hiatus. My first post back in 2018 was about how I came to be a stay-at-home mom. Back then, I was certain I wouldn’t stay a stay-at-home mom forever, that I wouldn’t be doing anything other than documenting my journey into becoming a working mom. I was quite insistent that being at home was not going to last. But life happened and life made changes without consulting me and now I find I’m exactly where I had never wanted to be. But, perhaps, I’m actually exactly where I’m supposed to be. Didn’t Want…

  • The Damaging Effect a "Perfect Mother" Can Have on a Daughter

    The Damaging Effect a “Perfect Mother” Can Have on a Daughter

    A perfect mother is a woman who can cook, clean, care for her kids, love her husband, and get involved with the community with a seemingly unlimited amount of energy, good will, and a boundless grace. Not only does she dress well, but her kids are dressed well and are always on their best behavior in public. Her marriage is the stuff of dreams. She bakes and volunteers at her children’s school(s). Maybe she works, and maybe she doesn’t, but, whatever she does, she does it all with a smile and timeless grace. I mean, in some ways, maybe it’s appealing. I don’t know about you, but it just sounds…

  • Looking Forward to Having Both Kids Home All Summer

    Many parents, my own included, look forward to sending their kids back to school as soon as summer vacation starts. Actually, I liked sending myself back to school, too. But I know my mom, and many other parents, look forward to having some child-free time again, look forward to some degree of freedom knowing their kids are being taught and watched for a number of hours five days a week. I don’t doubt that that will be me one day, especially when both kids are in school. But, right now, this summer, I look forward to having both of my babies home with me. It’s my son’s last summer before…

  • I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom and I Sit and Eat Chocolate More Often Than You Think

    It’s true, and I blame my daughter. The stereotype goes that stay-at-home moms sit and eat bonbons all day. And sometimes watching soap operas gets thrown in. When I was a mom of just one, I would laugh. My son was constantly on the move. There were warm days when we would take two walks a day. He loved going to the playground. He liked to run and jump, but had zero caution. The early years were always an adventure. I looked forward to his 50 minutes of speech therapy because it was the only real time I got to sit. When my daughter was born, I seriously thought about…

  • Yoga pant= Yoga: Not SAHM uniform — Mommy vs. Art

    I couldn’t agree more! Just because stereotypes about stay at home moms exist doesn’t mean all stay at home moms fit them and being a stay at home mom doesn’t mean you have to try to be like every other one. I, for one, shower and dress every single day even when it’s just me and my 2 toddlers and alcohol makes me gag. Yet I’m still a stay at home mom. Please do follow the link to the full post and leave any and all comments on the original. It’s now Sunday and I’m just now getting to my Thoughtful Thursday, because to be honest I was having a…

  • Dream Job by Lindsey from The Mommiest Introvert

    The Lily Cafe is thrilled to present Lindsey from The Mommiest Introvert! Lindsey is an introverted Mom to two extroverted kids and wife to an extroverted husband, trying to be her awkward self and still function in society. Her blog is about all things motherhood, as well as other topics that are important to her, such as her faith, books, and food.   Growing up, we all had a dream job, a “What do you want to be when you grow up” answer. Doctor, lawyer, firefighter, teacher, gardener, zookeeper, etc. But what about stay at home mom? How many moms said they wanted to be a stay at home mom…