To Be Like a Dolphin

Last year, or maybe the year before, my husband took us to see a film at our Natural History Museum. I don’t really remember which one it was or what it was about, but I do remember something about one type of dolphin. They live in not quite friendly waters, where the waves are large and a bit dangerous. But they thrive in it. They can be seen jumping and playing and having fun. As dangerous as their home may be, they still prefer to have fun.

For a long time, I would think about them and motherhood. Being a mom isn’t easy, but, if dolphins can live with a bit of danger and still have fun, then I can be a mom who can still be fun. When things get tough with my kids, I think of those dolphins and think, if they can live like that and still be fun-loving, so can I. Then I’ll put on a smile and do silly things. And watch my kids light up. Somehow, it makes everything easier.

But, now, I’ve been thinking of it in a different way: how it might apply to my blog. I adore my blog. I don’t actually know what I would do without it anymore. Sadly, it stopped being fun. I let all the fun leach out of me. I think I’ve found a way to make myself happy again, but it’s going to require some changes.

During this past 6 week cycle, I wrote about the days after my oldest was born for my Finding Magic in Motherhood series. Recently, I typed up the next part, the one that details the first 6 weeks of his life. Then I started thinking of what happened next, and what happened after that, and then what happened after that. I realized what I wanted to talk about, what I planned to talk about, wasn’t for me to talk about. It’s his life, things that happened to him, things we as his parents did to him to teach and care for him. It’s not my story to tell. As he’s gotten older (almost 6 now), I’ve come to see he’s actually a very private person. He shies away from even telling his dad about some of the things he did during the day. So I don’t feel right sharing his life beyond what I’ve already shared. I’m sad to say good bye to my Finding Magic in Motherhood series, because I have found the magic, but I can’t invade my children’s privacy. It doesn’t feel right to me. As their mother, protecting them and guarding them is one of my most important jobs.

This isn’t to say I won’t ever talk about my kids or about parenting, but, between not wanting to expose my kids too much and wanting to have more fun (writing about being a mom hasn’t been fun for a long time), I’ve decided to semi-retire the Mother’s Corner. It’ll still be open, parents will be invited to wander through, but I won’t be adding to it as often.

Going forward after my break next week, I’ll be focusing more on books and baking because, outside of being a mom, those are the things I most enjoy doing. I’ll still be posting my Queen of the Garden of Girls story, though. I also hope to add more stories once I finish it, whenever that is. I also have an idea I’m really excited about percolating in my head, but I need to sort out a tech issue first, so it might be longer than I’d like before it’s introduced. But, in the meantime, any parenting posts will probably be more along the lines of my Safer at Home Order Journal, a way for me to share what’s going on in the world with my kids and how it might be impacting us, or just to say, “when you were this old, this is what happened and this is what we did.” Like they’re 3 and 5.5 and we’re stuck at home because of COVID-19.

I’m sure all of my long-time followers don’t find this surprising in the slightest. I’m known for changing my mind. It’s all about just trying to find and keep my happy place here, and being true to me. And maybe a little bit about actually wanting to be a dolphin. After all, one of my siblings couldn’t pronounce my name when we were really young and called me “Dolphin.”

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  1. I love what you’ve stated in this post, Kat. And I especially honed in on the “trying to find and keep my happy place here, and being true to me” quote. Those are my sentiments to a “T”. Well put. I’m totally one of your followers who’s up for any changes you send your audience’s way. As I’m sure you’ve noticed about me, I’ve been known to make a change or two myself.:) Keep up the beautiful work.

    1. I’m so glad to hear that! I always worry if I’m going too far away from the reason why people followed me in the first place, but, if I’m going to keep doing this, I have to be happy doing it. Change is so much fun and keeps things interesting. And it’s easier to not become bored with a blog that changes now and then! I always enjoy the changes you make to your blog!

      1. Thanks so much Kat. I appreciate it. It’s fun exploring different topics of conversation. And, I’m happy to hear there are others out there that don’t mind me switching things up every once in awhile.

    1. Haha, I don’t actually know! I haven’t had any seafood in about 23 years, so I suppose I would make a very poor dolphin.

  2. I really like your blog. A pleasure to come stroll on your pages. A great discovery and a very interesting blog. I will come back to visit you. Do not hesitate to visit my universe. See you soon.

  3. I always admire how you respect your kids and their private lives. Our world has a way of expecting people to share everything anymore and I think it’s admirable that you’re allowing your kids to have this sphere in their lives that they get to decide what they’ll share and what they won’t.

    1. Thank you so much! I don’t think it’s fair to people to expect parents, or even each other, to share every part of their lives with the world. Some people are very private and others are not, but it’s different when it comes to kids. They don’t and can’t understand what a public life means and I must remember to respect my children as people, so it’s actually a really easy decision to make to not want to share their lives with people even I don’t know.

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